Guy with a past drug addiction?

Question by bambooey: Guy with a past drug addiction?
This guy I met, who, by the way is the sweetest, most shy person I think I’ve probably met, used to have a drug problem. I found out that a couple years ago, for a year he was addicted to heroin. He went through rehab and smokes pot every once in a while, but that’s it (as far as I know and am told). I don’t do any drugs and he knows this.

I’m just wondering if there’s anyone out there who has met someone who went through a phase in their life with drugs, that is clean now, and has been for a while? We tend to put a label on people who have had drug problems, but all they are is addiction, really.

Have you witnessed someone or ARE you someone who has overcome a bad drug addiction?

Do you believe people really can change it all around?

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Answer by Clammy S
I have witnessed someone have a drug problem, clean up, and then fall back into it again, in my experience this is a life long pattern and only a small perccentage actually never fall back into it. The people that see good in these person which there is, sometimes gets sucked into this life style even though they don’t do drugs themselves it is a hard life for the people that love them.

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6 Comments on "Guy with a past drug addiction?"

  1. Emily
    04/03/2014 at 11:05 am Permalink

    yes i do believe people can change it around. my ex boyfriend who i will always have a love for and his group of friends that he has been with forever were all into the drug scene. though i know they do all smoke pot occasionally, one of them i think has really seen the light and doesn’t do nearly as much of the drugs that he used to. though he still has his fallback times, he is really doing well for himself now.

  2. beautifulirishgirl
    04/03/2014 at 11:53 am Permalink


    It takes lots of work and effort though. I’m sorry to say that I know more people who have relapsed than have been successful in staying clean.

    I am not sure how involved with this guy you are, but if you really like him and are willing to accept the idea of a possible relapse (and helping him through it), go for it.

    I’d hate for you to miss out on “the one” because you were scared of baggage. Incidentally, I’d much rather date a guy with a former drug habit as “baggage” than a guy with 2 kids as “baggage”.

  3. Freefromall
    04/03/2014 at 12:11 pm Permalink

    Time will tell. Personally i have been sober for 14 yrs this Jan. 30. As for other chemical substances i haven’t taken ANY with the intention of getting high since 1979.
    Yes, people can change but only tim will tell if your friend is one of them.

  4. GENE
    04/03/2014 at 12:25 pm Permalink

    I have been a counselor and group therapist for many years. I have know many people who recovered from a serious drug addiction by trying to control their self-medication with a weaker drug (i.e, alcohol, pot, prescription meds.) For them, life is just a series of relapses because they haven’t admitted that they are powerless over the use of drugs and they are unwilling to work hard to treat the problem without the use of drugs. Unfortunately, your friend is only waiting for his next relapse.

  5. Dana C
    04/03/2014 at 1:11 pm Permalink

    People really CAN change it all around ๐Ÿ™‚ In my experience, drug dependancy comes from a lack of coping skills to life problems, and so the person turns to “self-medicating”…to numb themselves from pain.

    What happens is when a person decides to give up their habit, they begin to start feeling again. They learn in time that it feels MUCH better to see life face-first rather than from the sidelines of a clouded drug-induced mind. The person then begins to feel so much better about themselves, begins to get back their self esteem and confidence, and learns to honestly like themselves for who they are ๐Ÿ™‚ They begin to take a new interest in life itself, and start exploring more of what there is to offer – because drugs zap energy and logic. Also, a person on drugs is emotionally unavailable to anyone else around them……so it’s kinda sad that your buddy still does pot….as it’s still an escape….but maybe in time this can be let go of too.

  6. TERA
    04/03/2014 at 1:52 pm Permalink

    I’m a recovering addict/alcoholic, and currently in college getting a degree in chemical dependency counseling. I can tell you from personal experience and education that drug addiction is a chronic disease…once an addict, always an addict, even if you are abstinent and are in a period of recovery. The vulnerability will always be there, and takes very hard work and a good deal of motivation to stay clean. This is not to say it can’t be done…because recovery can be’s generally a life-long process, and not uncommon can be periods of relapse. Some people have relapses, some don’t…and some go through relapses on and off again for the rest of their lives. Heroin addiction is one of the most difficult of all addictions to overcome. But there is hope. I was addicted to meth amphetamine, also considered to be one of the most difficult to recover from. Giving it up was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. They say one in three people who are addicted to this drug will recover at some point…the other 2 out of 3 will continue to use- right up until they die (usually from the ill effects of the drug on their health), and will struggle with this throughout their lives. I guess I’m one of the “lucky ones.” Be proud of this man you’ve met. The fact that he’s working on recovery is a testemonial to his inner strength and conviction. Word of caution: his struggle may not be over…it may never be really over….he’s always going to be vulnerable to some degree to a relapse. The fact that he’s using pot tells me that though he may be abstaining from heroin, he’s not exactly in recovery…and there’s a difference. You can be abstinent and not be in recovery. He’s still self-medicating. He’s substituted one drug for another…and though the pot may be less harmful, it means that he is still very much on the edge of a relapse back into heroin. He’s in a danger zone. It’s the nature of addictive disease. I would suggest that if you want to become close to him, take some time to really educate yourself on the topic of addiction, also heroin addiction, and co-dependency. You may want to study the subject of relapse. If you’re going to share your life with him, it’s important that you know what he’s going through, and how you might also be affected.

    Good luck!

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